You’ll love Jennifer Love Hewitt‘s empowering message on aging.

The I Know What You Did Last Summer star shared that the fan reaction to her dramatic new hair transformation in August taught her an important lesson. As she put it, “Aging is Hollywood is really hard. You can’t do anything right.”

Case in point? “I was getting my hair done and I had not a stitch of makeup on,” Hewitt, 44, said on a recent episode of the Inside of You podcast. “So, I threw on a filter. I really gave it no thought.”

But the photo blew up on social media. As she recalled, “A bunch of people were like, ‘Jennifer Love Hewitt is unrecognizable.’ ‘She’s unrecognizable, so she’s gone to filters because she doesn’t want us to know how bad she actually looks now in her 40s.'”

“This is crazy, right?” noted the Ghost Whisperer alum, who at the time responded by “trying to make fun of it,” posting photos with what she called “over the top” filters on her face.